Nov
27
Tactful Questions
How to express tactfully one's intentions or needs? To marry intention with action - this is a life skill. If we do not have someone to model after to train this skill in the context of the subculture in force, we are bound to make social mistakes casting around for appropriate way to express ourselves.
Establishing rapport is the most important ingredient. Thinking about consequences is another. Deciding how to pop the question that may accelerate a "non-obligatory" state of friendship into reciprocal give and take is tricky. Key seems to be noticing how people treat their friends with whom they have already established trust of this sort.
Usually, the answer is often that there has already been a "give and take" in the context of the relationship that you may have missed noticing.
Establishing rapport is the most important ingredient. Thinking about consequences is another. Deciding how to pop the question that may accelerate a "non-obligatory" state of friendship into reciprocal give and take is tricky. Key seems to be noticing how people treat their friends with whom they have already established trust of this sort.
Usually, the answer is often that there has already been a "give and take" in the context of the relationship that you may have missed noticing.
