Here's a continuation of some more that I have to say about relationships, in honor of Valentine's Day weekend...

As the situation continues where the tacit agreements evolved, the relationship continues on an even keel. For most people, some major life change intervenes requiring both to determine exactly how and what the "family" is going to do that can accommodate changes. Usually by that time, the issues and struggles of character of each member of the family have become pretty obvious to each of them. Every strategy for dealing with life has its drawbacks. When problems occur, it's important to remember, respect & accept that these drawbacks are coupled with significant strengths in other situations.

We all know about the charming nicknames lovers seem to come up with for each other, but what do they really mean? 

Some of these names come to signify short-comings; but some of them reinforce qualities that the two of you have some conviction about or prior experience of the advantages of avoiding. It might be certain things that lovers "commonly" do for each other, or it might be unique.

I have quite a bit of hopefully helpful things to say about relationships. Today's post contains examples about how to change a tacit agreement to a unique expressed agreement.

With your every action concerning another person, you are evolving a tacit agreement of how the two you are going to conduct the relationship.

Problems come when the two of you are matching up slightly different cultural standards.
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I'm looking for defining an ethic about who and when someone deserves help. It is an unpleasant gift when what I make a sacrifice in hopes to better someone or a situation  - and it doesn't work out as intended. Mostly this makes me sad, and sometimes it makes me mad.

I'm not by nature a person who is judgmental. Observations are best served cold, so to speak. But in this case, I do have an opinion.
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