My Half Of...

Why doesn't "no" mean "no" when a guy propositions a gal?

Guys don't understand what's going on when a woman is afraid of a man who seems to has the potential to get angry at a woman for rejecting him personally. This is what women are attempting to dodge when they try to reject overtures "politely." This is why "no" is delivered in a way by a woman that doesn't resemble a "real NO."

For a guy to admit he 'desires" someone or something means he opens himself to disappointment when he is denied or cannot "have" what he expects or figures he 'deserves." But on his end, he doesn't experience that he's putting his expectations onto the woman. He only feels that the woman has the ability to reject him.

Coming home from college in the mid 1970s, I was riding in the back of the bus at night when I heard a man going through the pockets of a lone sleeping child with a knife, ripping the pockets of the kid's pack and coat. Rather loudly, (which could be explained because of the sound of the bus) I started talking about anything to distract the thief.

Suddenly, three very large black men moved in behind me, next to and in front of me in the empty seats that were available.

Logic says, "the only time another way is necessary to seek out is when current ways are blocked." I know ways to be more creative. Creative ways are "unexploited alternatives," usually in addition to "tradition." So a creative person looks for alternatives, even when there already exists serviceable answers.

I found that formally studying thinking skills has been the most useful to me in developing the ability to communicate my creative abilities...and to invite them to happen with others.